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To Impactform 		happy easter bugs Impactform, 10 Apr 2023 17:38
hope everyone got lovely eggs or if not, had a nice weekend :DD

To Sjeu 		Thnx, Sjeu, 11 Apr 2023 13:08
was it a celebration for you?

To Impactform 		I LOVE THE KNOWLEDGE Impactform, 27 Dec 2022 19:52
i love knowing about and thinking about this site,,
even when im not active its always a site i love the thought of
bugs are so cool B]

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To Impactform 		hi bugs could i get some advice? Impactform, 04 Dec 2022 21:12
someone I've been friends with for just over 2 years ( i think ) more recently has started to be rude to me and others for no apparent reason, incredibly argumentative and defensive, and seems to only make passive-aggressive comments towards me, yet i seem to be the only one to notice it?
im very avoidant of conflict so ive basically just been ignoring and distancing myself from her, but i cant gelp but feel as if shes going out of her way to make sure i feel bad about simple mistakes i make?

To Sjeu 		first thought; hurt people, hurt people Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:19
But.. what would love do?
Love is patient and kind..

P A T I E N C E =
What love can handle

K I N D N E S S =
What love gives out

To Sjeu 		~ Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:20
It means to not lose heart.
To persevere patiently and bravely
in enduring misfortune and troubles and
to stay patient in bearing offences and injuries
in others and yourself, while staying sound and safe.
(eg. by expressing personal boundries in a healthy way)
Patience helps things not to be missed by showing detail.
We get into the fullness of learning by exploring motivation.

To Sjeu 		> stay safe and do not comprimise Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:25
We compromise to stay safe, driven by fear of what we want to avoid, not by what we actually want. You don’t need to abandon your boundaries just so you can stay in a relationship.

To Sjeu 		So Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:26
You can have yourself and have other people at the same time.

You don’t have to choose between one and the other.

This is just one of the misconceptions that make relationships painful. It’s also one of the wounds that keep so many people stuck in misery. It’s the biggest mistake we make in relationships because compromise is sacrifice.

To Sjeu 		what kind of bond do you want? Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:29
chemistry > flow, leveling, interaction, engagement

connection > social glue, the ability to work through things

compatibilty > sharing values, bringing balance, personal perception

To Sjeu 		Know that Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:31
with the wrong person,
you will never feel
good enough..

To Sjeu 		If you want things to be different Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:33
you can not change any other, you can only change how you respond to the situation. ''If you do what you did, you get what you've got''.

To motivate yourself to do so (as most people are creatures of habit) you can enforce yourself by affirming:

I do whatever fuels me in my own loving way
I know myself, my means and my motives
I attract people who can move with me
I take care for those that support me
I respect and reciprocate real efford

To Sjeu 		My plan , building healthy relationships Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:36
look within
be yourself
love yourself
be intentional
take your time
follow your flow
hold your values
use discernment
sustain a balance
stand your ground
commit to intimacy
share and be open
eliminate confusion
create a foundation
focus on sharing joy
mind your boundries
be honest about you
be present and aware
aim for understanding
cultivate true listening
ask enough questions
eliminate manipulation
maintain a loving bond
evaluate what is shown
heal from your past first

To Sjeu 		~ Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:37
complement each other
persue mutual interests
keep on communicating
share your expectations
allow yourself to process
practice selfcare alltimes
trust your gut and intuition
entertain working together
have a genuine connection
assure you are comfortable
be aware of any projections
keep it real so communicate
aspire for emotional maturity
leave if there's lack of respect
express your wants and needs
don't assume, do a realitycheck
only go for a two-way connection

To Sjeu 		~ Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:38
express enough desire or intention
welcome each other being vulnerable

To Sjeu 		Why things get messy Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:47
Lack of Emotional Maturity and Poor Communication.

So intend to manage emotions in a mature manner - think, and process what you are hearing, discuss issues calmly and effectively - listen carefully if there is any opportunity for a respectful conversation. And leave the table when respect isn't served.

To Sjeu 		exchange Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:49
Counting on ability,
giving care for quality.
I love to share my smile,
and all things worthwhile.

I Like friends who are advocated
Any true efforts that are created
are very much appreciated,
respected & reciprocated.

~Sjeu

To Sjeu 		To get her Sjeu, 05 Dec 2022 16:50
The current mission that I see
is to figure out my right dose
in how I can free all of me
& do the things I chose.

In matters of intimacy,
I only care for those
that support me
to stay close.

~Sjeu

To Impactform 		fellow buges Impactform, 20 Nov 2022 17:33
how do the bugs deal with life stress and expectations B(

To Sjeu 		expectation = a ticket to disappointment Sjeu, 20 Nov 2022 20:42
To expect something is to believe with confidence that something will happen. It often implies the attitude that something should happen or should be a certain way.

To assume is to take something for granted or to suppose something is true, even without having any proof.

Then when things turns out to be different from what we assume or expect, there is usually some disappointment.

Bc. of trust issues I will ask people to be vocal about their intentions and communicate about expectations.

To Sjeu 		when I notice myself assuming things Sjeu, 20 Nov 2022 20:56
I usually do a reality check and go ask the person involved and this turns out to be helpful mostly, because a lot of the time it will spark a serious conversation and it adds to intimacy in the connection.

Communication is key, even when it feels awkward to start out. This will get better everytime. You can shape your reality and you can add quality in your experience by doing so.

To Sjeu 		you might want to Sjeu, 22 Nov 2022 11:02
take a look at some online video's or read more about Byron Katie. She has great free teachings;'The Work'. This helps you to examine any positive or negative thought, from parenting and relationships to work and finances, to test what is and isn’t valid. And it guides you through the practice of identifying and questioning thoughts that can lead to personal suffering and explains how our underlying beliefs may unknowingly fuel our emotions. Good luck!

To Impactform 		appreciated :] Impactform, 25 Nov 2022 19:24
this has helped put some things into perspective for me so thanks for the advice !

To Sjeu 		You're welcome Sjeu, 27 Nov 2022 10:26
: - )

To Impactform 		Wahhaj Impactform, 13 Okt 2022 14:39
Hellow buges

To Impactform 		Buge Impactform, 12 Okt 2022 15:08
I love buges B)

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To Twain 		always Twain, 21 Okt 2022 20:31
B)



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